Three magical words
My father is a simple man. He never had statements like “ Son, there are two kinds of people…” but had only two rules. Never lie even if you fail and always use Please, Sorry and Thank you. I’ll leave the lie rule to you and let’s talk about the latter.
Please, Sorry and Thank you does wonders when used. The best part is that both the parties enjoy the sound of it. Need not mention that smiling is mandatory for two of them. 🙂
During my schooldays, I ignored them completely. The egoistic and boastful person in me thought of it as completely unnecessary. Now I feel different using it. There’s always a sarcastic side to it but we need not practice it. The genuinity matters a lot and we don’t want to mock people because that’s not how we want them to remember us.
Let’s see how each of them will help us in our lives.
An adverb that’s used in polite requests or questions. That statement is self-explanatory and let’s not take advantage by using it in desperate situations. You may notice that it’s hard for the listener to be angry when used with a genuine smile.
Out of the three magic words, this one needs care. I hope from the bottom of my heart that you face fewer incidents to say ‘Sorry’. If you’re not going to mean it, don’t say it. It will only destroy your personality but if you meant it, it will make you feel good.
For asking forgiveness, you can start with sorry. I’ve said sorry for incidents where both the parties knew that it wasn’t my fault. I did it because the other person’s happiness was more important than mine. When a conversation is not clear, you can say that you’re sorry and got distracted.
My favourite of all the three. It gives immense happiness to you and the other person. It means you’re obliged because they have used their precious time to do something for you. Always use a smile with it. I’ve noticed that after I said Thank you, people kept their smile for a while. This helped them to be more happy in the next moment. It’s more of like a chain reaction.
Being humble is quite an expensive character to nourish. It requires constant awareness of who we are. A wrong motive or sentence might break it. My life has taught me that humility is the only skill that we need to learn. Once we’ve developed it, the desire to learn, discover and teach comes later.